I'm in late 20s and have five children so far with no intention of stopping anytime soon. I also have a STEM bachelor's degree and not a single other woman from my cohort has any children yet. Both mine and my husbands family find it strange and a little off putting- we're both one of three kids. I think the amount of work it takes and t…
I'm in late 20s and have five children so far with no intention of stopping anytime soon. I also have a STEM bachelor's degree and not a single other woman from my cohort has any children yet. Both mine and my husbands family find it strange and a little off putting- we're both one of three kids. I think the amount of work it takes and the physical sacrifice to carry, bear, and nourish so many babies provokes a certain amount of guilt in others who took easier paths. God has gratefully seen fit to provide us help one day a week who is the eldest of 12 children. She has many of the perspectives of this article even though she is reformed protestant like my family. It does seem that she has another wedding she's a bridesmaid or helper for at least every month and there's always sisters with new babies for her to help with. She has actually chosen to be an "old maid" (she turned down a good man's proposal and has left it at that) but she's respected and well loved. She will never want for anything as she pours herself into others. I admire her a lot and hope my children are able to have the family networks and love that produces people like her someday. She's the happiest woman I know.
Congrats to you and your husband, and God bless you in your responsibilities. I'm sure you'll have an incredibly fulfilling life and find all the work and sacrifice a small price to pay at some point.
I'm sure you're right about the sense of guilt. I can imagine plenty of people are happy for any justification to feel righteous about taking an easier path, at least in the short term.
Lol, we mostly talked about the ways we could incorporate more Amishness into our life and in how we're raising our kids. There was so much disconnection and busyness in how we were raised that we want something different for our family. So please continue your series and give us more ideas 😂
I'm in late 20s and have five children so far with no intention of stopping anytime soon. I also have a STEM bachelor's degree and not a single other woman from my cohort has any children yet. Both mine and my husbands family find it strange and a little off putting- we're both one of three kids. I think the amount of work it takes and the physical sacrifice to carry, bear, and nourish so many babies provokes a certain amount of guilt in others who took easier paths. God has gratefully seen fit to provide us help one day a week who is the eldest of 12 children. She has many of the perspectives of this article even though she is reformed protestant like my family. It does seem that she has another wedding she's a bridesmaid or helper for at least every month and there's always sisters with new babies for her to help with. She has actually chosen to be an "old maid" (she turned down a good man's proposal and has left it at that) but she's respected and well loved. She will never want for anything as she pours herself into others. I admire her a lot and hope my children are able to have the family networks and love that produces people like her someday. She's the happiest woman I know.
Congrats to you and your husband, and God bless you in your responsibilities. I'm sure you'll have an incredibly fulfilling life and find all the work and sacrifice a small price to pay at some point.
I'm sure you're right about the sense of guilt. I can imagine plenty of people are happy for any justification to feel righteous about taking an easier path, at least in the short term.
Thank you for putting so much effort into writing this fascinating peice! My husband and I enjoyed a long discussion after reading it.
You're welcome! Don't keep us hanging like that though, I'd love to hear where that discussion went.
Lol, we mostly talked about the ways we could incorporate more Amishness into our life and in how we're raising our kids. There was so much disconnection and busyness in how we were raised that we want something different for our family. So please continue your series and give us more ideas 😂